A V-Day 3-Way: How to Know If A Threesome Is For You & Your Boo

Roses Are Red, Violets Are Blue. Keep Reading To See If Threesomes Are For You.

In the words of the great Jamie Foxx: Ladies I know you’re tired of the same old thing, things have become so mundane…. *Alexa, play Unpredictable.* This is officially our first Valentine’s Day while in the midst of the pandemonium *inserts eye roll*, that means we gotta get more innovative than just a simple dinner and adding an extra position into your normal two position routine. Now we’ve heard time and time again that coochie isn’t a Valentine’s Day gift, especially if you’re giving it to him on the regular, but what about two coochies? Hmmm…that’s definitely a game changer. If you’ve ever been remotely curious about a threesome, now’s the perfect time to test those waters. I know you have questions and that’s great because I have answers. How do I approach my man with this? Who picks the other woman? Is this something I really want to do? Just keep reading, I’ll fill you in on this sexy V-Day soiree.

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How Do I Approach My Man For A Threesome?

Full Disclaimer: As much as we’d like to believe that having a threesome is on every man’s bucket list, some men simply aren’t interested. If threesomes aren’t your man’s thing, no pressure, but if he’s down for the cause, read on. Set the stage for your man. Tell him how awesome it’ll be to have two women catering to him and satisfying him in an entirely different way. Paint a picture of how it’ll be a fun and new experience for you both. Once your man is on board, you can begin the scouting process. Before you start looking for your third wheel, you need to ask yourself a very important question, Is this something I really want to do?

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The Need To Know About Threesomes

Like I mentioned earlier, a threesome isn’t for everyone, however, it can be a fun sexual experience for you and your partner if you’ve both been curious about it. With most things sexually, it’s imperative that you and your partner are on one accord. If you’re questioning whether or not this is your thing, let me help you out. First and foremost and please hear my heart on this, if you are on the fence about doing this, but you’re considering it to appease your man or save your relationship, please stop. I can almost guarantee that your man will not *deep throat, gawk gawk and double twist* to keep you, so please don’t feel compelled to eat coochie to keep him. Speaking of which, here’s a given about threesomes; some box eating will be involved and no, I’m not referring to the cute heart shaped boxes filled with chocolate. If you aren’t ok with a woman eating from your honey pot or you returning the favor, this may not be for you. But, if you’re comfortable with being on the giving and receiving end, then by all means, go for it. Another given is that your man will be touching, licking, and inserting himself into another woman. If you can’t stomach the thought of this, ABORT MISSION NOWWW. This ain’t for you. That leads me to my next point.



This is probably most important and should’ve been first, but here we are. Partaking in a threesome requires a certain level of security on all sides. This is very important when choosing the person for your V-Day Party of 3. My personal rule of thumb in the past as it pertained to threesomes was ALWAYS BE THE GUEST. I realized later that my rule stemmed from a place of insecurity meaning, I was okay with having sex with you and YOUR man, but ain’t no way somebody’s about to be joining me and MY man. Now that I’m more secure, I’m not against someone joining me and my partner. I said that to say, if you aren’t fully secure in who you are or your relationship, this 3 way parlay wouldn’t be beneficial to you. You don’t want to be in constant worry that this other female is outperforming you or she’s cuter than you and you certainly don’t want to have to worry about whether your man is more attracted to her than you. That’s pure torture. If you know that you and your man are solid and this won’t come between y’all, then you can finally proceed with choosing your person.

Who Chooses The Woman?

I had to do some research on this part of the conversation and it got a little spicy, but a lot of people ruled in favor of the woman choosing and honestly, I’m not gonna disagree with that. So ladies, it seems like the ball is in your court when choosing, simply because women tend to be more thorough in the pursuing and decision making process. I’m sure if you and your man have been rocking for a minute, he trusts your judgment. And honestly, if y’all are really comfortable, I think it’ll be dope if y’all chose said person together. After you find someone you’d be down for a hot tribbing sesh with, there’s one more thing to consider. Make sure that she’s on the same page with you and your partner and the expectations that were set. She must respect the rules and boundaries that are in place so this can go as smoothly as possible. We don’t need anyone sticking around after the lights are on and the party is over.

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Moral of The Story Is…

Two is a party, but three is a bigger and better party. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a million times more, the goal is for all parties involved to enjoy themselves. Allow your inhibitions to run wild. Now y’all know, I enjoy reading all about your fun sexcapades, so tap back in and let me know if y’all tried it and who knows, I may try it myself. Happy Lover’s Day!

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