Doing the BUTT: Adventuring into Anal Sex

Beginner's Guide to Anal Sex

It’s a brand new year and some of us are trying out new habits, new lifestyles, and new diets, but we absolutely cannot leave our sex lives out of the equation. Yes, we are taking our sex game up a few notches this year and what better way to start than at the top of the list? This is going to be a fun lesson, so let’s start with the basics. Say it with me: A is for Anal. I know, I know, we’re going full throttle early, but we owe it to ourselves to be more adventurous and try new things in every area of our lives right? Right! Full disclaimer: anal isn’t for everyone and if it’s not your thing, no pressure. However, if you are interested in having a little bun fun, you’re in the perfect place to get started. So let’s cover all bases of this tunnel of love and get into it, shall we?

What is Anal Sex?


I’m so glad you asked. Anal sex is penetration in the anus. Who can have Anal Sex? I’m glad you asked that too. Any person who has an anus can have anal sex. We’re all inclusive over here baby! It’s a tad bit different from vaginal penetration because it requires few extra steps, but once you get into the groove of it, you’ll find that it can be quite pleasurable for all parties involved.

How do I get started? Am I really ready for this?

For starters, Anal Sex is not something that should be a spontaneous act, especially if this is your first encounter. Reason being, it requires some preparation on all fronts. Let’s start with initial insertion. If you are new to anal in general, a good way to get started is to start small. Now I’m no stranger to a thumb in the butt or a tongue for that matter, but where length and girth is involved, a thumb simply cannot compare. My suggestion is, don’t jump in full throttle with a full sized penis or penis like instruments. Instead, ease into it with tools like butt plugs. Butt plugs generally come in 3 different sizes. Usually the smaller one is for beginners and the sizes go up based on level of expertise or intensity level. I know you’re probably thinking, “what if this gets stuck in my butt? ” The horror! Butt plugs usually have a cute little base that prevents that from happening so no worries there. And for added intensity, it feels good when you tug on them during intercourse or solo play (don’t say I never taught y’all anything:). If butt plugs aren’t your thing, anal beads are also a good alternative. It has the same stretching method. The beads gradually get larger as you insert them. For added pleasure, pull them out as you’re climaxing. Again, thank me later! These methods can be used alone or with a partner.


If you ask me I’m ready!

Ain’t nothing like the real thing baby! After experimenting with toys and you feel like you’re ready for the real thing or something close, talk with your partner and plan it out. “Why do we need to plan for it? We know we want to do it.” Because anal can get messy if there’s poor preparation. Don’t ask me how I know, just trust me. Imagine being in the mood and you’re thinking it’s time to go for it and you “paint” all over your partner. I’m literally cringing at the thought. So to prevent that from happening, we prepare. A few hours before the big showdown, clean out that booty. How to do that you ask? There’s small douche bottles that can be purchased. Just fill them with warm water and squeeze gently. Don’t apply too much pressure as that can have an adverse effect. Once you’re all squeaky clean, purchase lube. I cannot stress this enough. Your anus does not self lubricate like the vagina does, so lube is a must have! There’s nothing sexy about a torn asshole. A good rule of thumb here is, use a silicone based lube if you’re having skin to skin penetration. Use a water based lube if you’re using silicone toys. Silicone lube on silicone toys can ruin them and we don’t want to tarnish our precious investments. Once you have your lube, apply it and apply it heavily and often. Did I mention reapply during sex as needed? We want it to be as slippery as possible. Next, RELAXXX! Don’t tense up, just let your partner do their thing. If you’re on the penetrating end, please be mindful that the “balloon knot” is a very delicate area. You don’t want to do anything that’ll cause any discomfort to your partner *cues Usher; I just wanna take it nice and slowww.* Ease into it and maybe once you have a good rhythm going, you can speed it up. Look at you! You’re doing now. I’m so proud of you, being all nasty and shit. If you’re reading this and applying it, just picture me smiling at you. My heart is beaming with joy.


As always, the end goal here is for everyone to experience next level pleasure and I believe that can be achieved by following these steps. Have you been curious about anal and this post gave you the motivation to go for it? Chime back in and let me know it went. I’d love to hear from you! Happy Bun Fun lovies!


  • Krystal Burrell Armstrong -

    This is such a good topic and you approached it perfectly. As an anal novice – all of this rings true even though I’ve had a butt plug mishap once. 🙃🤣😭

  • Definitely requires preparation and the vibe has to be right. I also found angles to be helpful for both you and your partner.

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