Thanksgiving is approaching and with all that has happened this year, there’s nothing I’m looking forward to more than some good comfort food and spending time with my family (social distanced of course). HOWEVERRR, what I’m not looking forward to is playing 21 questions with my nosey ass relatives. I’m sure we all have that one auntie that’s always getting in your mix about what’s going on in your life. “Well, when you going back to school? You still working at the low paying job? You look like you picked up some weight and the ever popular, When you gonna get a man?” Like damn auntie, we’re in the middle of a pandemic. The only thing I’m focusing on right now is not dying and you pressing me about my weight. I’VE BEEN IN THE HOUSE!!! I know we can all relate. But this year, you’re switching up the game because you have a prospect that you MAY want to introduce to the family. How do you know if it’s the right time? Tap in below and see if your boo is ready to meet the crew.
Let’s start with longevity. How long have you been seeing this man? Do you feel like he’ll make it to the matching Christmas pajamas phase of the game? If you’ve been seeing each other for some time without any major hiccups, it may be time to bring him around. With that being said, let your family feel him out and see if he’s suitable to be apart of the gang. You don’t want them to meet him at the engagement party right? However, if this is still fairly new to you, then you may just want to keep your man to yourself for a little bit. You don’t want to introduce a vibe to your family that you can’t maintain. And you certainly don’t want to give auntie a reason to start on her “why you can’t keep a man” speech. So if that’s the case, it’s probably best to put in some time before introducing him to everyone.
What about compatibility? Are y’all good when things are good and terrible when things aren’t? The last thing you want to do is be fighting with bae across the dinner table when he says his mom’s turkey isn’t dry like this one in front of the entire family. We all know that in relationships, arguments are bound to happen. We also know that we’re quick to forgive our partner and our family won’t. If the compatibility isn’t there where you can respectfully disagree and move forward, it may be worth working on before you bring him around the family. We don’t need anyone getting jumped at the table. On the other hand, if you are pretty compatible and bae knows how to read the room, being your date to dinner at Granny’s wouldn’t be a bad idea.
EXCLUSIVITY! Say it with me: Ex-clu-siv-ity! This is a safe space and a judgment free zone, but listen sister. The only side pieces that are acceptable on Thanksgiving is yams, peas and cornbread dressing, NOT your man. Even if he’s your main guy, but he’s involved with someone else, leave him where he is. For all you know, he could be eyeing the Cousin Faith in your family. Things can get messy and you just don’t need all the extra drama amid everything else that’s going on. However, if you mutually decided to be exclusive, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with bringing YOUR man to dinner. Now check that auntie!
Merging lives isn’t always the easiest thing to do, but that’s what you have us for. We wouldn’t steer you wrong at all. Check our list and then check back in and let us know how Thanksgiving went. It may lead to a Christmas proposal or Santa bringing you an entirely new man. Either way, we can’t wait to hear from you! Happy Eating!